You’re nervous, scared. You’re breathing is shallow and you’re beginning to sweat. Your mind is racing but you can’t seem to find an answer to your problem that makes you feel good. In fact all you see in front of you are choices that are not so good and plain bad. You start weighing the outcomes of each choice in terms of personal perception. How will I be viewed if I make this decision or that decision? How popular or unpopular will I be for making such a decision? Will my boss support me? How about my wife/husband, my friends, my parents, my kids? Your emotions reach a crescendo and you feel you’re about to collapse. What now?
Try this interesting test. It’s a simple and fast test that requires answering just one question no matter how difficult the decision is you are facing. It can serve as your decision starter.
What would I do if I didn’t have to worry about any one persons reaction or perception of me based upon the decision I make? Sure this sounds unfair but if you begin every decision thinking first about what others will think of you then you’re likely to arrive at the wrong place. Like politicians that look at polls before deciding on their personal stance on an issue, people who worry more about what others think rather than doing the right thing will ultimately experience a short life cycle as a leader.
Authentic leaders don’t worry about what others think. Not that they set out to offend, hurt, or alienate themselves from others but they instead focus on being true to themselves first. After all, that’s what makes an authentic leader so appealing to follow. You always know where they stand on an issue today and tomorrow. They don’t waiver or pander. They simply establish their position, communicate it effectively and stick to it. If they do change their position it is backed up by facts and tangible learnings that justify their change. Not at all based upon opinion polls, or pressure from stakeholders or markets.
They have a sense of intelligent fearlessness. They are smart enough to understand where the pitfalls are but effective enough to lead through, around, or over them. They are mindful of cause and effect and focus on communicating both the why and the implications of their decisions. They are often times seen as bold, courageous, and confidence. They use their intelligence to assess the situation and select the best approach. Their intelligence coupled with their confidence in conviction allow them to lead others fearlessly toward the goal. This does not mean carelessly. The difference here is that an authentic leader through their personal intellect and confidence are able to make tough decisions without fear, while leaders whose only strength is to pander to public opinion live in constant fear of being judged. As such the leader who lives in fear is always looking to make the decision that allows them to place or shift blame elsewhere. To have cover when the sky begins to fall. Authentic leaders understand the risks and have no problems being held accountable to their decisions.
Recently Kathleen Sebelius was replaced as the Secretary of Health and Human Services (HHS). In the interviews that have followed since her removal from office she stated that they had got it (the website http://www.healthcare.gov) readiness wrong. It should have never been promised to roll out in October 2013. Yet video clip after clip shows Sebelius saying with conviction it will be ready. It is ready. It’s working. It’s right. So where was her authenticity as a leader? Where was her courage? Unfortunately like so many others in leadership positions she sacrificed her authenticity for popularity. If only people would realize that popularity is fickle. Eventually inauthentic decisions and the leaders who made them always show themselves but by that time both have been cast as failures. If only we could stay true, stay firm, stay authentic from the start.