Life is a marathon not a sprint, as so many people have said over time. Most of us start off without a clear picture of what we want to do, where we want to go, or where we’ll end up. We look around at what others have accomplished and wonder how they did it? Were they were destined for greatness/ Did they had a guardian angel watching out for them? Or even better, was success simply in their genes? I say nay, nay.
William Shakespeare once said, “It is not in the stars to hold our destiny, but in ourselves.” While it is easy to blame unforeseen forces for our plight or plunder it takes far more courage to own the direction you have taken and the place in which you arrive. But how can we make sure we arrive where we want? How do we know that all our hard work will ultimately generate the pay-off we so desire? Here are 5 critical things you need to do to take charge of your destiny:
- Vision. Do you really know where you’re headed, and toward what, are you heading? What is your goal? Why is it your goal? A big house, fast car, husband, wife, kids, dogs, cats, world travel, and don’t forget the top job with the big corner office. Have you done a self-assessment to ask yourself WHY these are your goals? Learning: If you don’t know why a goal is important you’ll never reach it.
- Preparation. Assuming you have the correct vision and you know what you’re striving for, the next question is, have you prepared in the best way possible to ensure your arrival or achievement? Henry David Thoreau said, “Never look back unless you are planning to go that way.” Planning is the most important part of any journey. Learning: Failing to plan is planning to fail.
- Stamina. Do you have what it takes? Are you mentally and physically prepared for YOUR journey? People underestimate the importance of being in shape both mentally and physically. But too often I have seen people falter on one or both of these critical areas. Learning: The most effective form of exercise works both you mind and body.
- Discipline. This is often the biggest area of failure in people’s journey to achieve their vision. They set a clear course. They laid out the best plan to get there. They got into shape to start their journey. And then something happened they didn’t foresee. This is the stage of the journey that leads people to give up and fall back on the “it’s just destiny” thinking. The difference between those that give up at this stage versus those that power through is discipline. Learning: You’ll know if the vision you have created is authentic and genuine when the amount of discipline you require to move forward lessens…you just want to do it.
- Self-Esteem. What value do you place on yourself? What’s your opinion of yourself? Do you feel worthy? Self-esteem is a necessary ingredient to taking control of your destiny. It’s not only important to have a goal or vision but you must believe you are worthy of achievement and the “positivity” that comes with a successful accomplishment. If you struggle with self-esteem take charge and work on improving it and it can absolutely be improved. Learning: low self-esteem is NOT a permanent condition unless YOU allow it to be.
Know that all of your life’s results are a direct reflection of the decisions you have made…not others. Remember the only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be. The power “to be” lives within YOUR mind and body. Be ready, take charge…live YOUR life.